Thursday, November 4, 2010

Consideration and Etiquette: They're always in fashion

I have a pet peeve about which I would like to rant. (If you are included within the offending party, please don't be, likewise, offended. I just have to get this off of my chest, and then I'll be over it. It appears to be a societal issue and a glaring faux pas mine and younger generations have seemingly accepted.)

What's up with people not RSVPing to parties, which require planning based on numbers?!?!? Why would you RSVP with the guest of honor and not with the actual host, as indicated on the invitation, which was sent out far ahead of time, therefore, providing the guests ample time to respond with a "Yay" or "Nay" by the requested date? What if the guest of honor and the host live three and a half hours away from each other and rarely have time for proper communication? How would the host, who is putting time and effort into planning a party, know to count your attendance?

Are you frightened to RSVP with the host using the telephone number provided, as you do not know the individual and are quite introverted? Then why did you not use the email address also provided? Computers furnished with the Internet are widely accessible at public libraries, schools, universities, and  places of work.

Were you vacillating between committing to attend or to not attend? Is your life so overbooked that you simply can't decide? Maybe you should RSVP "no". Do you have few activities scheduled for the day of the party? Maybe you should take a walk on the wild side and RSVP "yes".

Do you plan on not attending? Please see paragraph #3. Telephone and/or email utilization is encouraged in communicating your response. No, we did not rudely assume your absence. Now we will have to hunt you down.

You see my point, people? It's the simplest of requests that could make a world of difference.

Infinite "thanks and appreciation" to those of you who took less than five minutes to notify me of your attendance/non-attendance. I mean that in all sincerity.

Now for the rest of you, and you know who you are, we love you and would be overjoyed to learn of your attendance. Of course, we understand entirely if your are unable to attend; we will certainly miss you. We even understand if you plan on making honest attempts to attend but cannot entirely guarantee your ability to be present. Life can be hectic.

Regardless of what your response may be, PLEASE RSVP!!!!


The Host of a Quickly Approaching Event this Weekend.


  1. Here, here! I am co-hosting a baby shower and sent out 40+ invitations. So far I have received 11 rsvps. Four of those came from the other hostesses, one came from the guest of honor, and one came from myself. I provided a phone number and email address. What does it take to get a simple "yes" or "no" from people these days??? They probably wait more than two weeks to send thank you cards, too...

  2. I am right there with you! I HATE when people don't RSVP. I have even resulted to putting RSVP regrets only, and it still doesn't happen!

  3. Oh, and I'm even fine with texting your RSVP. Whatever form of communication it takes to get your response to me is PERFECT!

    Glad to see I'm not alone in this ;-)